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Dating Indonesian Women and the New Law on Extramarital Relations

Updated: Mar 8



The so-called "Bali bonk law" doesn't seem to be bothering Indonesian weddings or dating sites and apps. Having said that, many unmarried couples have expressed their concerns about sharing hotel rooms.


The mayor of Bali said that tourists don't have to worry about it. We've been on social media almost every day and haven't heard any bad stories, yet.


If you're planning a destination wedding in a picturesque location like Bali and are seeking assistance with cultural nuances, local vendors and logistical coordination; then please send us a message for free information about our consulting services.


We searched on google for Indonesian dating and among the results were several recent articles and stories about romance scams.


Throughout the years, this is an unfortunate reality that we have had to accept and learn from time after time. In our experience, most of the single women that we meet are more or less honest and forthcoming, but sometimes you have to settle for less rather than more.


Generally speaking, we try to meet for the first time in a public place. Sometimes, the lady herself might be used by others around her to get to you. She might not even be aware of it.


We prefer to use a social media marketing or management strategy because that way we get a fresh start with each new client and can somewhat avoid the sometimes-hijacked or suspicious profiles that one inevitably encounters on the dating apps and sites.


If you go on Pinterest and type in their dot com address and then put on a forward slash and then the word 'search', you can browse without a personal account.


When you search or browse, for example, they will show you dozens of options on which you're prompted to click with your mouse. Four or five of them are about girlfriends and relationships. Social media can be fun, colorful and very informative when it comes to online socializing and meeting new friends.


The new law is a revision of an old existing one and will ban certain things outside of marriage. Cohabitation by unmarried couples, who are tourists, should not be a problem inside of hotels, according to one local official.


Pinterest always has great content about Indonesia. You can type anything in their search bar and they will show you all of their relevant 'pins', each of which might include many photos and pertinent information.


If your problem is finding Mrs. Right, then Indonesia might offer an alternative solution. We see a lot of weddings on social media. Several of the big platforms find and display all things great and small pertaining to Indonesian weddings.


Sometimes you find links for sites like femina.co.id which has over a million modern Indonesian women followers on their national social media platforms.


How many languages do Indonesian women speak? Sasha, a real beauty, early to mid twenties, answered in good English, "Oh wow, that's a lot. I'm from West Java and I'm Sudanese so my local language that I speak is Sudanese. And then we have the Indonesian language. Bali has it's own language which I don't speak or understand."


Social media "influencer" factories are presently appearing all over the country. They're like call centers, except they're selling hundreds of products every day through social media platforms and channels.


Indonesian women have a great fondness for browsing dating apps, sites, platforms and various social media channels. Those of you without your own account on one of those multi-use platforms can sometimes use a friend's account. Some sites have filtering tools for things like age, gender and languages.


Indonesian women see themselves as equals to their male counterparts. They are supportive and traditionally enjoy a degree of socio-economic freedom.


Facebook dating, eharmony, Tinder, and Cupid are some of the biggest dating platforms. There are millions of beautiful single women texting and direct messaging every single day of the week.


The lovely young lady in the photo above could be looking forward to an international marriage with a western gentleman just like you. His home country might also be where she intends to immigrate. Take the USA, for example, where he could file an I-130 Form for an alien relative online with the USCIS. They have field offices and application support centers across the country.


Well, we went to the application support center in Nashville and unfortunately, we didn't make much progress. The guard gave us a telephone number to call for more information. She informed us in no uncertain terms that in their office they only do fingerprinting and that we should apply online.


Hopefully, your home country has some kind of service center where you can get some help if she wants to immigrate and get her permanent visa or citizenship


Here's a helpful tip for those of you who are interested in the paperwork involved in your possible upcoming wedding: Many of the normal marriage contracts that result from a standard civil service already include a prenuptial agreement. They often have a clause or paragraph that stipulates in the event of a separation she will receive at least two thousand US dollars. You have to agree to that by signing the contract in front of witnesses and a government official.


Another tip is that you should have a personal identification that shows your civil status in your country as single.


There are many Western single men mostly from Europe and Australia, for example, who are presently participating online with Asian single women within one or another of the big international social media platforms.


If they want to, the local single women can search through an endless online supply of virtual European partners. However, many others prefer to only meet face-to-face.


According to some statistics, there are approximately 30 million Indonesian women who use Instagram. About half of them are probably single.


CONCLUSION: Indonesia is a great place to find your sweetheart and plan your wedding. You can do it all yourself by using the information in this post. Or, if you want us to take care of everything for you, please email:




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